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Virgin Monk Boy's avatar

Oh, Empath. Tender sponge of the cosmos. Soft radar of human ache. Virgin Monk Boy sees you.

You thought your sacred assignment was to be the mop for everyone's spiritual vomit. To be the unofficial therapist, energy reservoir, and emotional Tupperware for anyone within a 5-mile radius of a trauma dump.

But darling, your nervous system was not designed to be a community trash can with glitter on it.

This teaching? Observe, don’t absorb—it’s the alchemy every empath must master. Watch the storm. Don’t marry the lightning.

You are not “mean” for having boundaries. You’re not “cold” for refusing to set yourself on fire just to keep others warm. You’re not “too much.” You’re finally enough for yourself.

So breathe. Close the tab. Unsubscribe from someone else’s chaos. And remember: your energy is a temple, not a free Costco sample tray.

May your aura remain moisturized and your soul surrounded by yes only friendships.

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The Urban Monk's avatar

Deep gratitude for this beautifully raw reflection. May we all unsubscribe from chaos and keep our temples tended. Thank you 🙏

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Timothy Fountain's avatar

Thank you for this. Very helpful reminders throughout, especially about boundaries.

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The Urban Monk's avatar

I'm glad it resonated with you, Tim. Thank you :)

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Mary Magdalene 33's avatar

Thank you for this perspective, very poignant. The analogy of looking at the ocean and observing the waves and the dance it does without jumping in struck me deeply. Your insights are profound around empaths like myself ..and setting the compass as a in the world but not of it mentality is always the best route like having a detached curiosity. Thank you so much for your post - peace be with you x

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The Urban Monk's avatar

Thank you Elizabeth, for your kind words. I'm glad it resonated with you. Grateful you took the time to share this :)

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Mary Magdalene 33's avatar

You're welcome..thank you! Have a blessed day.

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Richard's avatar

Cool read!

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The Urban Monk's avatar

I'm glad it resonated with you, Richard :)

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Maryann P DiEdwardo's avatar

Many thanks.

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The Urban Monk's avatar

Thank you Maryann, for reading :)

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Sunshine's avatar

Thank you for this. I am on a journey, fully embracing my identity as an empath and accepting that it does not make me weak.

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The Urban Monk's avatar

Thank you for sharing that, Sunshine. Wishing you continued clarity and self-acceptance on your journey! :)

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